We know that you have seen what has been going on in the world regarding our black bodies. We have talked, but the truth is, it has been hard, terrifying and exhausting for us. The ugly reality that we live in simply because of the colour of our skin and not the content of our character has been weighing on us in the past few weeks like an albatross.
Dr. King wanted better for us. We wanted better for you.
It breaks our hearts that we have had to speak to you about how to navigate yourself in this world as children of colour. If we had it our way, you would just be children. Allowed to laugh. Play. Dream. And eat lots of popsicles on the stoop on the hottest of days. Always popsicles cause they help you remember the fun times.
Instead we teach you how to code switch, to go high in the face of absurd ignorance, to put your hands up if confronted by a police officer and say “My name is…I am X years old. I do not have a weapon and I am not going to hurt you.” I am not going to hurt you. Saying that out loud sounds insane. But we will say it until it’s etched in your brains if it increases your chances of coming home. If you never have to say the words, I. Can’t. Breathe.
Do we want you to be scared? No! But we can’t be ignorant to the fact that society is not where we want it to be. So we prepare you the best way we know how.
As we use this weekend to reflect on Juneteenth, we also want to impart some other lessons that may have been drowned out because of the noise. In the wake of this chaos, we want you to know that you are valuable. Your life matters. Your voice matters. Black lives matter. And until they do the notion that all lives matter is inaccurate and false.
We are active participants in a movement that could rewrite the books your children will read. We will be on the right side of history. Do not dim your light. Stand up for what you believe in. Take up space and let people see your strength. Speak up for what is just and surround yourselves with people who actively do the same. Be the black girl magic. Be the black boy joy. Never let anyone trick you into believing that your black is not where it’s at. You come from descendants of Kings and Queens with an array of rich, melanin hues. Your black is BEAUTIFUL. Everyone knows it.
With time and change, you will be the dreams your ancestors never even imagined. And that will be phenomenal. Until then keep being you and unapologetically shine bright! And eat lots of popsicles on the hottest of days. Always popsicles.
When I realized that we would still be in quarantine during my birthday this year I decided that I would not make any formal plans; but have a really low-key birthday at home with my family. Usually I celebrate my birthday for the entire month of May. To start, I received a mystery box of gifts from May 1st to the 24th from an anonymous source I was pleasantly surprised with. The instructions in the box were clear: open a gift each day and indulge. My birthday was already off to an amazing start!
With each passing day and with each gift opened, I began to become excited for May 24th which would be the culmination of my celebration. I must admit, having a gift to open each day really elevated my mood during this quarantine. It lifted my spirits and gave me something to look forward to.
In previous years on the weekend of my birthday, my family and friends typically have a celebratory lunch together and shares birthday wishes and blessings. We still went ahead with that , albeit on a much smaller scale but #boothang rounded off the speeches with a beautiful video with well wishes from friends and family from all around the world. I was absolutely blown away! It allowed me to realize that I am loved and care for more than I know. I ended my birthday eve with a night of music and games. Little did I know what was in store for me on my actual birthday.....
On my big day, I woke up and had some quiet reflection time to pray and thank God for bringing me into a new year. Glad I had a bit of precious time, because my daughter's came bursting into my room pulling me to come outside. When I stepped outside, my heart melted! My daughters decorated the lawn with birthday garland. I went for a bike ride and came back to balloons sent from San Francisco.
Next, the hubby told me we were going to the Mariana since it was finally open since the lockdown was implemented. We skipped rocks in the water and enjoyed time together. Driving home, I thought about how perfect, yet different this birthday was. Little did I know more was in store. I just believed my video messages was the big birthday surprise and I was perfectly content. As I pulled into my driveway I was gobsmacked. There in the center of the lawn was a table of treats and a very beautiful backdrop. My family walked up with signs and the music started to play.
As I danced around the lawn, I heard the faint honking of horns getting louder and closer. Turning around, I saw too many cars to count spreading love, gifts and birthday wishes. As each car pulled up the were handed a water bottle, popcorn, skittles and a dumpling, ackee, plantain bite. This drive-by was nothing like I’ve ever seen. It was also totally unexpected as a few days prior, I was in a drive-by for a friend and did not think it would be done again so close together. This drive-by was next level! An experience that all who attended and I would remember.
I was overwhelmed with gratitude and amazed at how my tribe showed up and showed out for me. During the very peculiar time where we have not been able to socially gather, the drive-by has given me the push I need to remain positive and hopeful during this pandemic. What special element would you add to your drive-by celebration?
Lowkey, we are kinda obsessed with graphic tees! Honestly what’s not to love about them? They’re cute. Functional. 100% comfortable. And are like a silent billboard for your feelings. For those reasons and more, you will frequently see our Styles by Knight fam rocking these t-shirts. It just makes sense that the graphic tee would be our key piece for our first instalment of Day to Night.
B: When I first saw my shirt in the Hudson’s Bay over a year ago, it screamed my name. I love the saying on it ( who doesn’t want to have a superpower?) and love the minimalism of the black-and-white. To say this shirt gets a lot of wear is an understatement. I decided to pair the shirt with some classic denim mom shorts from the Gap. These shorts are super-comfy and the medium deconstructed shade of denim really goes with anything. Personally I think it’s always good to give an outfit a little edge. I did that by finishing off the outfit with a vintage unisex leather belt from Roots; and a pair of faux-leather studded boots that I got on sale at Zara.
TK: This graphic tee from deeplydopetees had my name written all over it. As a fan of Issa Rae, her unforgettable quote is a conversation starter whenever I go out. For the day look, I went with a distressed black denim mini skirt from Topshop and a pair of fire-engine red Adidas runners. I picked up both items from one of my favourite thrift stores, Plato’s Closet. Since the chill was still in the air, layering with my army fatigue jacket from Ali Express was the perfect choice. To finish the look, I added a thin H&M belt.
B: Taking this shirt from day-to-night is pretty simple. I absolutely ADORE accordion skirts, so my Forever 21 charcoal grey shimmer skirt was my go-to option(similar option here). The awesome thing about this kind of skirt is that it is timeless so its longevity in your wardrobe will be lasting. To give the outfit an extra wow factor, I added some Steve Madden tri-colour, open-toed heels. The snake pattern is on trend for 2020 and provides some additional texture.
TK: What better way to transition a graphic tee into the night then pairing it with tuxedo black. Truly, I think there is nothing more dramatic than being donned in black from head-to-toe. With that in mind I opted to pair my tee with a pair of slim fit Abercrombie denim jeans. The ripped-knee detail can add a bit of sass; and makes the jeans that much more versatile as they can easily be used for a more casual look. In terms of accessories, the Stetson hat (Aldo) and mosaic purse (Plato’s Closet) pushed the outfit to the next level. While I love the black-on-black look, black shoes just look passé in my opinion. I felt a pop of colour would be a dazzling compliment and used red satin Aldo shoes that I picked up in a past thrift haul.
You can easily use these looks as inspiration to create your own fashionable look with your graphic tees. Which look is your favourite? Let us know in the comments.
TK & B.
As we start to near the halfway mark in the year, we were talking about how the motivation to complete those January resolutions can tend to wane. For some who didn’t make objectives at the top of the year, the impetus might be heightening given the current state we’re in. So we thought it would be a good idea to create a visual reminder by making a why board.
Similar to a vision board, a why board is a physical or digital representation used to provide continued motivation towards manifesting goals. Unlike a vision board a why board consists of images that push you to excel. When we discussed what pushes us to be better, it was a no-brainer: our family is our why!
The end result? A beautiful digital collage of the people we love that we are using as a screensaver on our devices. If you are making a physical one, be sure to get an elegant or minimal frame ( the dollar store has some inexpensive ones) to put your why board into. Then place it on a wall in your office or on your desk.
Benefits of a why board:
What is your why? And what does it push you to achieve?
Mother’s Day is right around the corner. And while Covid lockdown has us inside, and many retail stores are closed, it doesn’t mean that mom can’t get her props with some awesome last-minute gifts.
How will you be surprising mom this Mother’s Day? Let us know in the comments!
We are going on week 7 in lockdown. And amidst all that, we have been home trying to navigate a new normalcy. For most of us this includes binge-watching tv, going to the fridge a dozen or so times, and wearing pyjamas to Zoom meetings. All of that is good; but as we patiently wait to re-enter the outside world, here are 10 things you can do to keep you going during quarantine.
What things are you doing to keep yourself happy and healthy during this isolation time? Share with us in the comments below!
It’s been a minute since we have been gracing the interwebs. Family, job action strikes, illness and life kept us busy and distracted. When hobbies are just that, they often take a backseat to the realities of real-life. No time for curated content, Instagram posts, photoshoots. Nada. Just a full pause. Periodt.
These last 6 weeks in quarantine have taught us not only how important family is; but how important it is to follow your passions. We owe it to ourselves and our kids.
They say if love something let it go and if it comes back, it was meant to be yours. And that’s how we feel about the blog. It’s our love letter. The one you write and sometimes mail to the one who got away. You have ups and downs, ebbs and flows; but you always find your way back.
Our love letter says: “We still have something to share. To impart our favourite pieces of this tapestry called life, stitch them together and present it to you.”
Our unique perspective infused with our Canadian birthplace, our Jamaican heritage , and how that informs our amazing journey of motherhood as well as our love for fashion.
And we thank you for asking us when you can continue to hear from us. The time is now. Thanks for your love, support and prayers. Most of all thanks for welcoming us back.
TK & B
Every year the Black Beauty Brunch elevates its game, so it’s a no-brainer that we'd have to elevate our fashion stylings as well. An annual favourite, you can be sure that the attendees of this event bring their Sunday’s best and serve! We try to stick to the 3 Fs when selecting an outfit: Fashionable, Functional and Fun!
B: This year I went for the colour-blocking trend which made its way back into this season’s fashion staples. So it was no wonder I was drawn to this awesome structured bodysuit from Mendocino. The pairing of fuschia against red made just the impact I wanted. It was a showstopper! Bold colour was an understatement; but my favourite detail was the ruffle that adorned the front—-a definite nod to haute couture on a budget. And for anyone who knows me the low back was just icing on the cake. For a mom that loves unique pieces but works at being budget-conscious, this reduced find at a cool $29 was a win-win all around.
Thankfully, I purchased the top before looking for pants. But I must say that finding a pair of red pants during the 2019 summer season proved difficult. Orange was without a doubt the choice colour of the season. But where there’s a will there’s a way! I found a great pair of red trousers on sale for 50% off at Guess, which complemented the bodysuit to a tee. Actually, many people stopped me to tell my how fierce my “jumper” was!
Last, I chose to tie this outfit together with a pair of suede and vinyl heels from Zara($29.99); and a red leatherette bag ($29.99) from Winners. They were the perfect accents to complete the look.
TK: This year I went for the pleated trend which I have been rocking for years. I’ve always loved pleated skirts and really love how it adds a bit of dimension. And the colour drew me to it, like moth to a flame! Yellows, mustards and oranges work so well with melanin complexions, so I was very excited to add this Zara piece to my collection. I was able to find it at Marshall’s for a total steal of $19.99.
I had an idea of what I intended to pair the skirt with, but after fitting all the pieces together, it was a bit underwhelming. That was until I recalled a cute cropped blouse I have been trying to wear all summer. The pattern was not overbearing, and had just enough colour to pull the look together. The blouse was purchased from my local Value Village $3.99.
For shoes I decided on my Zara fringe black open toe heels, which I found at one of my go-to consignment shops, Plato’s closet Scarborough. The final piece to this outfit were the accessories which I got online from SHEIN (earrings) and my purse from local retailer Fashaun Fyle--always a conversation starter every time I wear it.
What are your favourite pieces to wear to a branded brunch such as Black Beauty Brunch?
Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service are my love languages. In my family, I play a primary role in the decision-making and logistics of the daily grind. So it’s an amazing gift when a loved one offers to do something that would normally fall on me. Simple things like cooking dinner or allowing me to ride shotgun instead of me being behind the wheel mean the world to me. Which I guess could be complementary to words of affirmation. Hearing encouraging words and compliments help me to stay the course on my journey and nurture me. Both languages help me feel valued and appreciated.
As for how I express my love, it would definitely be acts of service! I love caring for people. In my opinion there’s nothing that says ‘I love you’ more than doing something nice for the people that are special to you. My heart is really full when I can make someone’s day a little easier.
When I think about how I express love, I can say I have come a long way. Before boothang was my husbae he used to say I was cold as ice. I didn’t know how to express love.
Fast forward to our marriage counselling days. I learned that my love language is quality time. You could just sit with me watching tv all day, as long as we are together that makes me happy. I realize that’s how I like to receive love, but I express it through acts of service. If you ask me to do anything and it’s within my reach I will do it, or be there. It took me awhile to realize these love languages, and I’m glad that I discovered them sooner than later in my life. Life experience has taught me that it’s ok to be who I am just the way I am.
What is your love language? How do you show your love? If you’re not sure, [take this test] to find out.
Happy Valentines Day,