This year marks my 10th mommy-versary. I say 10 even though he is soon-to-be 9, because I had my first Mother's Day when he was nestled cozy in my womb and screamed "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOMMY! YOU DA BEST!" through the body language of kicks and somersaults. And as I reflect, I am definitely filled with the pride that more knowledge has replaced fear in this decade. My bambino has not perished at the hands of a mother that clearly is faking MOTHERHOOD and has no idea what she's doing. I have learned a thing or two about motherhood and what's even more surprising is that my son has taught me about life. He is actually been the greatest teacher of my life!
What I have learned….
1. I don't know everything…and that's ok!
Shocking I know but true! I used to think that I had it all figured out or could have it that way if I just made a plan. And when things didn't go how I expected them to, it was like the world was about to blow up and I didn't know how to stop it. Shii has taught me that it's okay not to know. But it's NOT OKAY if you just want to spin out in chaos and never figure it out.And no matter what is happening, the world won't end so just keep going.
2. Love and be love.
Before I became a mother, I didn't know how to truly love someone. In fact, I didn't even know how to be open to receive love. Through being Shii's mother, I have learned to love people beyond reasoning, and to see the very best in all characters. Day after day, I watch Shii and his cousins love hard, fight harder and come back together again. He has taught me through this example that living my life in love at all times, goes so much further than I have ever imagined. It makes me a happier person to be and to deal with. And the biggest lesson in this lesson is the more love I give, the more I receive.
3. Patience Grasshopper.
While I love this kid, I have to tell you, he can drive me shitball crazy! He is a regular Dr.Jekyl and Mr.Hyde. Two sides of a coin that only I really know, and which I'm sure other parents can relate to. But it is his constant requests, mood changes, and often zany behaviour that has made me learn the art of patience. And this patience has been a skill that I've been able to transfer into my workplace relationships and just into life situations in general. It has also lowered my blood pressure, which he sends back up. Another story for another time. LOL!
4. Work Hard, Play Harder.
Shii is a kid who loves to play and could play all day. But when the time comes to get that work in, he does just that. I have dubbed him the 'straight A' King, because of how well he does in school. Yet I marvel at the fact that he knows how to take time out to have fun. He has taught me to have fun. And it's true! More Fun = Relaxation = Good Endorphins = Mental Clarity to Produce Better Ideas and Productivity.
5. Fall Down and Get Back.
When Shii was a toddler, he would always fall down. Tripping while running or picking up something he couldn't manage, the fall was inevitable. He never cried though. He would just get up and yell, "I'm OK"! The many memories of these scenes still make me laugh. But his sentiment after each fall. taught me to go through life knowing that no matter how bad the fall, I would survive. It has served me well how many years later.
Things aren't perfect, but they sure are worth it! I thank God daily for giving me the greatest Mother's Day gift that keeps on giving.
Let us know what valuable lessons your kids have taught you.