Last weekend I had the privilege of attending the wedding of a good friend. She stood for me as a bridesmaid five years ago. I was so happy to see her join the club! #wifelife She is so full of life and such a warm spirit. She's always laughing and made a exceptionally beautiful bride.
She had a wonderful mini bachelorette and a wonderful wedding with family and close friends.
In true TK fashion, I utilized my #thriftfinds for the weekend's festivities. For the bachelorette party, I wore a teal flared skirt with a patterned off-the-shoulder top. I really enjoy dresses and skirts. It gives me an excuse to show off my legs. Lol
For the wedding,I decided to go with a bright floral sheer dress. While the wedding was outside on one of the hottest days, reception venues are usual cold. The long sleeves were a perfect balance. I picked up this dress a couple months ago knowing I had a few weddings to attend this summer. I decided to belt it to give the dress some shape.
With all the events this summer, I'm so glad I scored some great finds. If your social calendar is anything like mine, and you have many events to attend, I challenge you to try getting an outfit together with at least 1 piece thrifted for your next outting.
Are you up for the challenge?
Happy Friday JR!
Do you have an activity that you do with your spouse? Do you work together? In ministry together, or on an extra curricular team?
I know some may be saying, I would never be on the same team with my spouse, or work with them on a project or in ministry. Too much stress if things don't go according to plan.
Well #boothang and I play football together. He's the quarterback and almost everyone teases him that I'm his #1 receiver.
Could it be that we have a chemistry on the field that stemmed from a personal relationship? Or is it that he trusts that if he throws the ball my way I'll catch the pass? Whatever the case is, I will say that doing a competitive activity with your spouse comes with its challenges and rewards. Winning is always great, but losing is tough. For me , trying to find the balance of speaking up and knowing when to shut up is unique in itself.
Sometimes I feel like that expectation is greater on me more than my teammates from my husband in regards to how well I play. Sometimes it seems like I never have an off day. Maybe that is his way of pushing me to excel past just being good. It does come with loads of pressure, which I don't always feel like carrying. A couple years ago I said I was going to leave the team and play with another and he gave me a side eye. Needless to say we still play together and I don't see myself playing for another team anytime soon.
Playing football together has taught me things about my husband and how he reacts while under pressure. But it also shows me that if he has me has a constant support 9/10 we will win--on and off the field. It helps to know that there's not a thing that we can't tackle together.
Sonext time your spouse says "babe lets do.....together," don't count it out! You may learn some valuable lessons about them and yourself.
#Myguyshii reminds me a lot of myself when I was his age, especially the way he responds to the world around him. When I was 10, my mom stopped subscribing to the Toronto Star; and banned me from watching the news. I would see the images of the Gulf War and be overwhelmed. Really overcome with emotion. The scenes were simply too much for my little mind to bear. I was acutely aware of what was taking place in the great big world. I could read after all. And although I knew that what was happening was "far away", the tears I shed were still real. My mom's way of dealing with my responses to the current events was to shut it all out.
Fast forward twenty-odd years later, I see him in my then position. Wide-eyes misty, mouth open, and asking questions. In nine years, I've had to explain Sandy Hook, South Carolina, Mike Brown, Treyvon Martin, just to name a few. I've had to explain why Black lives matter. Now with the recent Orlando massacre, why all life matters...again.
My impulse is to turn the TV off. To not read the big words in the paper with him anymore. But that would mean shutting the world out. It would mean not showing him that bad things happen. It would create a fallacy that only good is in the world.
So we are having the conversation about tradegy. He is asking questions.
"Why would he hurt people he doesn't know?"
"Did he killed them because they are gay?"
"Is God happy or sad?"
I answer candidly.
"I don't know why. He doesn't seem like he was very well."
"He killed them because he had more hate than love in him."
"God is never happy when someone dies."
He tells me he's scared and doesn't want to die. He tells me he doesn't want to hate anyone that much.
I tell him that death is a part of life. And if we love our Creator and love each other we will have a better life than the one we have on Earth. I tell him that the real tradegy in this will be if we do not learn to love everyone despite our differences. Because God says to love first. And no matter what, love is the greatest answer. Love wins. Always.
After having my second baby 2 years ago, I really had a hard time bouncing back. I was over 210lbs at the time of delivery . I know I don't believe it myself. Yes, I understand that I had a baby and all I had to do was exercise, eat right, and lose the weight. Well, It wasn't that easy. I struggled with some set backs, even though I played football before, during, and post pregnancy. It wasn't until this year that I was able to finally see some real progress. I really started to work out and eat right. This allowed to me regain some of my confidence and show of my mid-drift during my recent vacation.
In preparation for summer trips and outings I went on a mini shopping spree to make sure my summer wardrobe had some key essentials. I was very open to picking up some tops that I'd watch my sister wear summer after summer. The infamous crop top.
For my vacation I paired this floral light crop tank with basic denim shorts. My neon old navy sandals brought out the neon flowers in the top.
After shedding the baby weight I was excited to enjoy my vacation showing off the progress that I've made.
Again if you know TK by now, you know I picked up this summer essentials for Value Village. Spending a little and getting a lot is what I love to do. I always need to have options. Look out for some more thrifted summer pieces throughout the summer
Happy Friday JR!
The last few months, my skin has been in a man-down situation. It seems that hormonal changes have activated in my-decades-past-pubescent years. My face is paying the highest price. What started out as a few blemishes, now results in adult acne and hyperpigmentation. I can do nothing about it. And I can’t even get dolled up anymore without outrageous flare-ups. So I made a decision to change some things. I tweaked the diet, increased my water intake (ugh!); and changed my makeup.
Over the weekend, I hit up Sephora to find some products that would give me full coverage to hide my blemishes. A lovely cosmetologist named Antria listen to my dilemma. She did a makeup analysis on me called a colour ID, to find the best product match for my skin. She was on point. After narrowing the bevy of cosmetic brands down to a handful she decided on Hourglass Cosmetics.
Her knowledge of the product was impressive. When she finished applying the foundation to my face, you could barely tell that I had any markings at all. I was in awe, but still apprehensive so she gave me a sample and told me to try it over the next few days to make sure my skin responded well to it. I did however buy the Hourglass Veil Mineral Primer on her recommendation.
Seeing as I had an event to go to that evening, I decided to give the foundation and primer a whirl. Can we say magic?!?! The primer is lightweight and has a velvety texture to it. I did find I had to blend it a bit longer, than previous primers I’ve used in the past because it’s a white lotion as opposed to a clear gel. Then I applied Hourglass Veil foundation in Walnut on after applying a bit of my own concealer, and BELLISMA! The foundation is fluid and has a hint of translucency; but still covers so well. You could even see my marks. And best of all at the end of the night, I had lots of compliments on my beat face and no skin irritation. WINNING!
I highly recommend Hourglass Cosmetics. They are a little pricier than drugstore varieties, but sometimes you truly get what you pay for.
What makeup products do you use to help you turn problem skin to flawless skin? Share in the comments below.
2016 has been a hard year for me. Until a few weeks ago, I had been on a medical leave from my job.Boy has it been hard re-adjusting.
Gone are my days of yoga, reading and just trying to take care of me. The fictious four-eyed, gnarly version of Master Splinter's ugly stepbrother, whom I aptly named "King Rat Race", has taken over my life and kicked me right back where I was 8 months ago--with my head barely above water.
So what am I to do? How do I tackle the rat race blues?
In my mind, the only option is to surrender. But after talking to some people in my tribe, I've been told the best thing to do is to take a breathe, reassess the situation and make a new plan. A plan that puts me at the forefront and creates balance.
So last night, I sat down and made a list of all the things I have to do and another list of all the things I want to do. Then I grabbed my agenda and tried to commit time to each of those lists throughout the month. Can I tell you that just that act of conscious intent made me feel 10 pounds lighter!
I am still a work in progress, but I am trying to create the balance that makes me successful AND happy.
Share some of the ways that you create balance in your life. What activities do you do to keep you sane and happy?
Until next time...