This little girl was my EVERYTHING! She was the reason I pushed through the hard times, she was the reason I got up everyday, and she taught me how to love in away I never knew I could. She was my first born, Zynaye! She was the best baby ever and I’m not just saying that because she’s mine. She never cried, slept through the night, and was always smiling. She was a joy to have as a young single mom navigating through life.
We were blessed to have an amazing man “Boothang” join our team of two, showering us with love and attention. While Zynaye is fortunate to have a very present father, which she has an amazing relationship with, we experienced having a man in our lives and home daily. This was different for the both of us, but I believe we all adjusted pretty well.
A couple years later we were blessed with princess Ariyon which completed our family of 4. Zynaye prayed for a sister and God answered her prayers. While they fuss and fight, the bond that they both share is heart warming.
While I appreciate the relationship that I have with my daughters and admire the relationship they share, I believe it is very important for each daughter to have one on one time with me.This week Zynaye and I had a mother daughter day downtown Toronto.
We started the day with a dental appointment, then headed to lunch at Warehouse at Yonge and Dundas.
Right after lunch I surprised Zynaye with an event solely for her. I found a great event for young girls while perusing on Facebook. One Girl - I AM Enough at the WE Global Learning Centre located at 339 Queen Street East. I thought this would be perfect as she begins at a new school in the fall. Also being a pre-teen, building her self-esteem and confidence is critical. I also figured she would be the only black young lady in the group; so I am always seeking ways to make sure we are at the table.
As stated from One Girl – I AM Enough:
As girls we can be our own worst critics. How we view and compare ourselves to others can really have an impact on our sense of self-worth and the way in which we go about finding our place in society.
I believed these topics would be a great to start the school year off right, and remind Zynaye of all her awesomeness.
I always want my children to feel special and know that I always have time for them. I want them to be able to stand for themselves and others. I hope that I can continue to maintain meaningful one on one time. What one on one activities do you do with your children individually? Please share, because I’m always looking for ideas for the next date.
This weekend we had the pleasure of attending the Black Beauty Brunch in Toronto. Showcasing all things melanin, over 140 gorgeous women brunched, shopped and sipped at T.O. Jam Factory.
Black Beauty Brunch curator Monique London proved three times is a charm. The decor was rustic elegance. While the beautifully draped family-style tables set the vibe of togetherness and sisterly love. To start, guests noshed on fruit and light appies offered up on a sharing platter. This allowed for attendees to mingle with each other and shop from the black-owned businesses on site before the brunch fare.
The brunch menu provided by Simone’s Caribbean Restaurant was scrumptious! It not only offered variety, but had tasty North American favourites with staple Caribbean cuisine. Desserts by Sweet Treats were all the rave as well. Kudos to the culinary team.
No great event would be complete without entertainment and education. Our favourite female DJ, DJ Lissa Monet had us jammin to the 1s and 2s. She’s a Black Beauty Brunch all-star and never disappoints. Can she score the soundtrack to our lives already?! (LOL)
The roster of speakers had the whole room glowing with messages of empowerment. From Dr. Natasha S. Browne candidly speaking on mental health and wellness in the black community to Zahra Ali’s expert tips on business entrepreneurship and branding, each seminar gave us the tools needed to propel our inner bossbabe.
Black Beauty Brunch continues to meet our expectations and then some. We will definitely be back next year!
What does it mean to be married in 2018? Are you busy keeping up appearances, sharing social media posts that only reflect how sweet and great your relationship is? Let me keep it real! It took me the past 7 years to finally feel like I have hit the sweet spot in my marriage. My husband and I have experienced many challenges along the way, but over time, I have tried to do my part in being more understanding and not making mountains out of mole hills. Like most things in life you reap what you sow. If I don’t put in the effort and compromise, how can I expect positive results?
I know someone may be reading and say, “I don’t know if marriage is for me?” While that may be true for some it is important to always put 100% into making the relationship work. I will speak for myself, one of the things that keeps my marriage going is that we are genuine friends. We joke, play sports together, disagree, love, and spend time with our friends separately. I believe we have found the balance to pleasing ourselves and each other.
I don’t ever want my husband to feel like he can’t be himself with me; and I hope he never feels pressure to reach some unrealistic expectation he thinks I have. I love who he is and believe that we are great when we’re apart but a force when we’re together. We don’t compare our relationships to our friends or those who we see on line that we admire #theellises. But we do reflect sometimes on keeping it real with each other and trying to better our communication.. We enjoy having date night, or just laying up in the bed watching tv.
By no means am I an expert; but my advice to those who are married, find your sweet spot and marinate in it. Don’t share every little thing with everyone. Most important, keep God at the centre of your relationship and I can almost guarantee the good times will outweigh the bad.
For those who want to be married but haven’t found that special someone yet. Don’t settle! What is for you is for you! Be open to getting to know people, building meaningful relationships, and be honest about your intentions.
If you are busy watering your own grass you won’t have time to see who’s grass is greener!