Do you have an activity that you do with your spouse? Do you work together? In ministry together, or on an extra curricular team?
I know some may be saying, I would never be on the same team with my spouse, or work with them on a project or in ministry. Too much stress if things don't go according to plan.
Well #boothang and I play football together. He's the quarterback and almost everyone teases him that I'm his #1 receiver.
Could it be that we have a chemistry on the field that stemmed from a personal relationship? Or is it that he trusts that if he throws the ball my way I'll catch the pass? Whatever the case is, I will say that doing a competitive activity with your spouse comes with its challenges and rewards. Winning is always great, but losing is tough. For me , trying to find the balance of speaking up and knowing when to shut up is unique in itself.
Sometimes I feel like that expectation is greater on me more than my teammates from my husband in regards to how well I play. Sometimes it seems like I never have an off day. Maybe that is his way of pushing me to excel past just being good. It does come with loads of pressure, which I don't always feel like carrying. A couple years ago I said I was going to leave the team and play with another and he gave me a side eye. Needless to say we still play together and I don't see myself playing for another team anytime soon.
Playing football together has taught me things about my husband and how he reacts while under pressure. But it also shows me that if he has me has a constant support 9/10 we will win--on and off the field. It helps to know that there's not a thing that we can't tackle together.
Sonext time your spouse says "babe lets do.....together," don't count it out! You may learn some valuable lessons about them and yourself.